If I were to make one wish, it would be that my estranged son would gain insight on realities that occurred during a decade-long struggle to coexist as father-and-son. During my son’s formative years, I had to slog up a mountain of parental alienation obstacles in order to be a presence in his life.
Now, as my son is a grown man, during the course of the last several years, communication has been spotty, pretty much only by texts, and those texts are often littered with expletives and insistent claims of prior abuse.
No matter what response I provide to help clarify the claims of prior abuse, the temperature heats up more, bigger text expletives land on my phone, and the cursing becomes mostly unbearable, and frankly disgusting.
The most recent text rant claiming that I had thrown him down the stairs, causing his present back problems, along with a series of claims of my almost killing him three times and his mother once, finally brought this situation to absurdity.
This post is intended for my son. I want him to know the truth. I compiled this post to provide my son a resource of accurate public documentation to show how a multitude of social workers, psychiatrists, attorneys, and court judges have reviewed me and my son every possible way imaginable, and none has ascertained any instance of physical abuse inflicted by me upon my son.
The abuse claims are absolutely false. Worse, the false claims of abuse have damaged my relationship with my son, to such a degree that many years later, my son and I have little contact, other than texts accusing me of prior abuse. As they say, “sunshine is always the best disinfectant.”
To you, my son, before entering the divorce court system, I knew that my efforts to be a father to you would have negative consequences. I knew I would be dragged through the mud. I was expecting things to get ugly, and they did get ugly. Now, years later, the ammunition used to mischaracterize me and our viability as a father/son family unit influences your opinion of me. That opinion is incorrect.
If we are to have a healthy relationship, we need to dispel the false abuse claims used as a wedge to divide us.
Each supporting document entry contains court records that anyone can access. The court case is D472021 is filed in Superior Court of California, County of San Diego 1551-55 Sixth Avenue, San Diego, CA, 92101. This court is commonly known as San Diego Family Court. The court documents are public record and available via the Clerk of the Court office at the same address (entrance door at street level below the court building). Records at this time are likely archived, but copies can be requested at a fee. I believe copies can also be transferred with written request where the file box would then be taken from archive and brought to the Clerk’s Office for viewing and/or photocopying.
The divorce process lasted from 2003 to 2012, just shy of a decade. During this period of time, my prime objective was to maintain a parent-child relationship with my son. The second objective was to establish a rational child support payment structure and to sell the house that I purchased after initial separation in December 1996.
The story will commence out-of-sequence, as the critical Order to Cause (OSC) Hearing of 7-13-2009 lays the groundwork to explain the many years of conflict that had been developing. “2008 12-16 Chucas Statement of Minors Counsel - Complete Set” is below. The document is nineteen pages that include findings from two separate psychological evaluations and eventual assessment from Minor’s Counsel.
2008 12-16 Statement of Minor’s Counsel
First Filing for visitation
2002 09-17 Order to Show Cause Filing – CR Declaration
The Order to Show Cause (OSC), setting an overnight visitation with my son and me on the weekend of November 3rd
2002 10-30 Stipulation on Agreed CR Limited Visitation
Family Court Services report below
2002 11-14 SD Family Court Services 12-2-02 Hearing Preliminary Review
Family Court Services produced their report to the court, with my son and me together for half-a-week each month with paired Wednesday night
2002 12-02 FOAH Hearing Order – Custody And Visitation
Court Order to engage a private mediator, Penny Angel-Levy, for custodial disputes
2003 06-02 Stipulation on Visitation and Penny Angel-Levy Mediation
Declaration re Mediation Problems below
2003 09-12 CR Declaration re Mediation Problems
Declaration of the visitation exchange facilitator below
2004 05-05 Declaration by Debbie Holloway Visitation Monitor
Declaration of OSC
2004 03-23 Order to Show Cause CR Declaration
Contempt of Court Lodgment
2004 01-7 Notice of Lodgment – Initial Contempt Exhibits
FOAH and Contempt Outcome
2003 12-08 Order to Show Cause and Affidavit for Contempt
Resulting order for court-ordered psychological evaluation and report
2004 04-08 Stipulation on Custody Evaluation And Order Thereon
