If I were to make one wish, it would be that my estranged son would gain insight on realities that occurred during a decade-long struggle to coexist as father-and-son. During my son’s formative years, I had to slog up a mountain of parental alienation obstacles in order to be a presence in his life.
Now, as my son is a grown man, during the course of the last several years, communication has been spotty, pretty much only by texts, and those texts are often littered with expletives and insistent claims of prior abuse.
No matter what response I provide to help clarify the claims of prior abuse, the temperature heats up more, bigger text expletives land my phone, and the cursing becomes mostly unbearable, and frankly disgusting.
The most recent text rant claiming that I had thrown him down the stairs, causing his present back problems, along with a series of claims of my almost killing him three times and his mother once, finally brought the situation to absurdity.
I love my son, and in the interest in making a stand for objective reality, I have posted this page within my cliffroepke.com personal site to provide a brief history of the slow and painful progression of divorce, alienation, failed mediation, then false claims of abuse - to culminate in a court-ordered Minor’s Counsel for my son, as well as a psychological evaluation of my ex-wife, my son, and myself, culminating into a state-of-chaos within the court system and my son’s court-ordered emancipation at the age of fifteen.
Each supporting document entry contains court records that anyone can access. The court case is D472021 is filed in Superior Court of California, County of San Diego 1551-55 Sixth Avenue, San Diego, CA, 92101. This court is commonly known as San Diego Family Court. The court documents are public record and available via the Clerk of the Court office at the same address (entrance door at street level below the court building). Records at this time are likely archived, but copies can be requested at a fee. I believe copies can also be transferred with written request where the file box would then be taken from archive and brought to the Clerk’s Office for viewing and/or photocopying.
The divorce process lasted from 2003 to 2012, just shy of a decade. During this period of time, my prime objective was to maintain a parent-child relationship with my son. The second objective was to establish a rational child support payment structure, and to sell the house that I purchased after initial separation in December 1996.
The story will commence out-of-sequence, as the critical Order to Cause (OSC) Hearing of 7-13-2009 lays the groundwork to explain the many years of conflict that had been developing. If you, the reader, are short on time and want an accurate assessment of the conditions as they had developed over seven years, from 2002 to 2009, click the pdf file below to read the “2008 12-16 Chucas Statement of Minors Counsel - Complete Set”. The document is nineteen pages that include findings from two separate psychological evaluations and eventual assessment from Minor’s Counsel (document will open in a new tab).
